My “4-EG“The Four Elements of Game,” which make up the self-correcting system pioneered by Date Hotter Girls that unlock a man’s attractive potential with women. Each element is balanced by it’s counter element, so drive balances inspiration and mechanics balances connection. System” (the nerd in me had to give it a dorky-sounding name, sorry!) is so simple I can’t believe no one else has uncovered it before me. In its essence, it’s founded the two essential factors of ANY pickup: TENSION and RELEASE. To give a quick small-scale example, when you step up to a girl and say she’s hot, it creates tension. If you’re smiling as you say it, there’s a release.
The complimentary “energies” of tension and release constantly cycle throughout an interaction. Any guy who’s talked to a babe knows that when there’s too much tension things get awkward and/or creepy; when there’s too much release things get friendly and/or nonsexual.
Building on that foundation, I realized there are two “elements” of attraction that create tension (DRIVEMotivation to actively approach and interact with women. When a man has a driven mindset, he will fearlessly—and shamelessly—pursue his goals and aspirations. (In the context of dating, that would be a woman he finds attractive.) and MECHANICS) and two elements that allow release (INSPIRATIONThe ability to express oneself in a creative—and alluring—way. As a counter-balance to drive, an inspired mindset is “passive” and so is follows driven action. (For example, a guy who “doesn’t know what to say” will suddenly think of something if he simply takes action and approaches a woman. Inspiration will come to him “on-the-spot.”) and CONNECTIONConnecting with a girl is essential to the 4-EG balance. Since connections should never be forced or manipulated, it’s a passive mindset. Vulnerability is crucial to making a solid emotional connection.). Not only that, but the elements form an “axis” where DRIVE opposes INSPIRATION and MECHANICS opposes CONNECTION.
This system is so frighteningly simple that learning it puts you in serious danger of having amazing relationships with lots of hot chicks in very little time.
Think about it: you can’t be genuinely getting to know a woman (connection) if you’re constantly thinking what you should do next (mechanics). Likewise, you can’t be flirting with a woman and bantering with her (inspiration) if you’re putting the moves on her and getting physical (drive). There’s a time and a place for each element.
The key, however, is BALANCE.
A guy can break down his sticking points moment-to-moment (when the girl’s in front of him and it actually matters…not later on the Internet, with a bunch of dudes) just by assessing where he is in relation to the 4-EG system. It’s not incredibly complicated: if you’re “coming on too strong,” you know to counter-balance your drive with inspiration. Similarly, if you’re bordering on becoming “friend zone” guy, you step up your mechanics.
This system is so frighteningly simple that learning it puts you in serious danger of having amazing relationships with lots of hot chicks in very little time. It’s for guys who want to hookup with hot girls while acting totally normal. I’m leading the next generation of “PUAs” into the “date hotter girls” movement. We’re all about balance and babes.