Neil Strauss is the worst. I’m not name-calling, bickering, or launching some underhanded smear campaign. Strauss is the worst because he’s the lowest form of human—he’s a betrayer of trust. In Dante’s Inferno, traitors occupy the lowest ring of hell. And such would seem an appropriate place for someone who has betrayed so many well-intentioned men. Now let me address the fan-boys, whiners, and critics right off the bat. This essay isn’t about smashing on “negs” or calling out his Continue Reading
Before I delve into dating, let me digress for a moment. I want to confess something… I suck at sports. I’m uncoordinated. I don’t have much leg speed. And my body seems unable to accept the “proper form” of any sort of sports movement—from the wrist flick of a jump shot to the elbow snap of a golf swing. I suck. For most of my life, I had to endure my suckiness at sports...Continue Reading
Whenever I meet guys looking to improve their success with women, one underlying question always permeates everything they do: when will I be good with women? Every guy who gets into improving his success with women really only wants thing, which is to have success with women. Some guys refuse to endure the process necessary for that success, so they give up; other guys are willing to going through the process, but only do it with the ultimate outcome in mind. I completely understand the Continue Reading
When you imagine improving your love life, what comes to mind? Do you envision wild nightclubs? Crazy party girls with fake boobs shoved in your face? Acting like a wild rock star? Living the idealized frat house life that you missed out on in your college years? Those were the images that used to come to my mind. For a while, I thought that improving my success with women was an irreverent adventure fit for an American Pie movie. That “vision” led me down an interesting rabbit hole. Continue Reading
t’s no secret I’m a loud critic of “The Pickup Community.” While some claim my criticism is a thinly disguised marketing ploy or an outgrowth of my own insecurities, the truth is much deeper than it probably seems. For me, I spent way too much time believing the hype and myths of The Pickup Community. Those beliefs kept me from meeting and dating countless awesome women. In fairness, however, some of the material in The Pickup Community was extremely helpful and allowed me to meet and Continue Reading
You’re your own biggest cock-block. I know because I’m my own biggest cock-block. While it’s fun and easy to blame outside factors for our dating failures—her nagging friends, your genetics, or the city we live in—the thing holding you back most from having the love life you want is what’s going on between your ears. Now I’m not going to go all “self-help” on you and lambast you with a condescending rant on “limiting beliefs” or “success barriers.” The truth is more concrete than some Continue Reading
So Zack and I just finished preparing the audiobook version of "The 4 Elements of Game." After we released the book, I'd receive a few emails a week from guys who'd ask about an audio version of the book, for 1 of 2 reasons: 1. They wanted to listen to the book, over and over, until the mindsets fully sank in 2. They hate reading. I can appreciate where these guys are coming from, so Zack and I decided to create a full, unabridged version of the audiobook...Continue Reading
If I’ve learned anything in the last few years, where I’ve met and dated women in manner completely beyond comprehension to any sensible human, I’ve learned this: things are not as they appear. Entering the dark woods of seduction is like walking into a carnival funhouse where contorted mirrors distort your sense of reality until you question the very fabric of everything. It’s no surprise that the lucky few guys who master this area of their life go on to pursue other endeavors that Continue Reading
What’s your best opener? If you can answer that question, you aren’t doing as well with women as you should be. If you have an opener you consider “good”—or worse, if you’re looking for an opener you’d consider good—you’ve already lost. That’s because the best way to “open” a woman has absolutely nothing to do with an “opener.” Back in the day—circa 2002—the world was first introduced to “The Opener”—a scripted line that was supposed to “open” a woman to an interaction with a man who Continue Reading