In most of my products and articles, I rarely go into much depth about how to kiss a girl. In my opinion, sexual escalation (like kissing) is more of an outgrowth of sexual tension. In The 4 Elements of Game I define kissing as a “release” behavior—something that releases the tension created when you’re interacting with a woman in an attractive, masculine way. However, I know some guys out there like a more thorough and detailed explanation of how to kiss a girl...Continue Reading
I could almost see his spirit laid across the floor, shattered, crunching underneath the bustle of a Lower East Side wine bar. I stood off in the corner, not unlike a trainer during a 12-round boxing match. I was ready to yell some motivational tidbits in his ear, or do what little I could to dress his wounds, but not much more. At least a dozen times that night I spat my personal mantra at him: It’s not about them; it’s about you...Continue Reading
Last year I wrote the 10 Best Texts to Send Girls…OF ALL TIME. Now, time hasn’t ended and those 10 texts are still totally relevant and effective. But since these posts are fun to put together, and I think they teach good fundamentals for texting and communicating with women, I decided to follow up last year’s post with another 10 texts, straight from my iPhone…Continue Reading
I remember exactly where I stood when I heard it. I was in 7th grade. I was walking through the hallway of the science wing and passing by a group of older kids, cooler kids. These were the “popular” kids. As I approached the huddled mass, I caught a snip-it of a question: “…going to get porn?” Then, he said it. A freshman named Dan Beck, already a notorious seducer at the ripe of fifteen, sneered. The crowd went silent as he prepared to speak the words that would forever color my Continue Reading
As the name implies, self-reference means you point out something you did or are going to do. I’ll demonstrate exactly what I’m talking about in a moment, but first I want to explain why this strategy is so effective. Most of the time when guys chat with women, they try to come off perfect. This is why some men brag, other men “DHV,” and still others just try to appear like they got it all figured out. Logically and intuitively it makes sense to act like this; however, in reality, this Continue Reading
If we were to meet up, have a drink together, and then go meet women, it would only take us seeing you do one approach to figure out if you’re good with women or not. It wouldn’t necessarily matter if you “got” the girl. No. Over all the years, we’ve learned there are really only two ways to tell if a guy’s good with women. Here’s how: when approaching, are the girls: 1. Loving him, or 2. Hating him?Continue Reading
Your pride—The number one thing that holds most guys back from meeting a girl who really excites them is their own stupid pride. Get over yourself. Risk rejection. Stop believing that anyone gives a shit about you, your “reputation,” or how you’re being perceived. Put your pride on the line and go for the girl. Your laziness—Girls aren’t going to pick themselves up. If you don’t actively make a habit of going out to meet women, you’re not going to enjoy the success you want. Meeting and Continue Reading
A question I’m constantly asked is whether I feel it was necessary that I went through all the “bullshit” dating advice before I arrived at my simplified philosophy. And my answer is always, “I really don’t know.” Who can really say whether or not the bad advice helped me in some bizarre, roundabout way? Regardless, as I was drifting off to sleep last night, I was thinking of all the things I once did that were just a complete waste of time. For me, I only got into dating advice for one Continue Reading