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9 Ways to Create Tension That Attracts Women

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Today we’re diving into a game-changer when it comes to attracting women: TENSION. Remember, tension is the secret sauce that keeps her intrigued, captivated, and wanting more.

So, let’s explore nine easy ways to create that magnetic tension and have women hanging on your every word…

1. Create a Sense of Competition or Challenge

Nothing sparks tension like a little friendly competition. Challenge her to guess the song you’re about to play on the jukebox, and if she gets it right, she wins a prize—like your undivided attention for the night!

2. Blame Her for Looking Great

Take a playful jab and let her know you’re “pissed” at her for looking stunning in that dress. It’s a sneaky way to compliment her while making her wonder about the effect she’s having on you.

3. Playfully Challenge Her Opinions

Don’t hesitate to challenge her opinions in a lighthearted way. Show your surprise when she reveals she’s not a fan of ’80s music, and watch her reaction as she tries to justify her musical tastes.

4. Tell Her “No” or “Not Yet”

A well-timed “No” or “Not yet” can work wonders. Keep her curious and intrigued by withholding information until the right moment, like when you’ve had another drink or two.

5. Use Non-Verbal Cues

Sometimes, silence speaks volumes. Use a sly smirk or a raised eyebrow to hint that you know something she doesn’t. Let her imagination run wild trying to decipher your secret.

6. Master the Art of the Pause

Deliberate pauses can build anticipation like nothing else. Next time you have a story to share, add a few strategic pauses to make her hang on to every word, eager to hear what comes next.

7. Embrace Unpredictability

Be the unpredictable wildcard that keeps her guessing. Instead of just ordering another round of drinks, surprise her with a spontaneous idea that leaves her wondering what’s in store.

8. Use Open Loops

Tease her with tantalizing snippets of information, but don’t reveal everything just yet. Open loops create anticipation and leave her wanting to know more as the night unfolds.

9. Create a Sense of Urgency

Let her know you can only stay for a fixed amount of time. The ticking clock adds urgency to the moment and makes every second count, creating an electric atmosphere between you.

TENSION is the GLUE of ATTRACTION

Mastering the art of tension is a skill that can transform your dating life. Tension fuels attraction and keeps her engaged, supercharging your interactions with women. Prove it to yourself: try these techniques and watch how women respond to the magnetic pull of tension you can create with these simple outer game techniques.

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Rob Judge is a writer and dating instructor in New York City. Themes that resonate in both his teaching and writing are masculinity, genuineness, rational self-interest, and general awesomeness. To stay up-to-date with his most current writing, connect with him on Facebook and on Twitter.

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